Over the course of a lifetime we’ll meet a lot of people.
Some of these people will cause permanent footprints in our heart and soul and
stay with us forever, and sometimes people just need to weave through your
life. Occasionally, we come to find that one ‘friend’ who can more or less be
deemed ‘toxic.’ Literally, they drain the life from you. They stress you out or
make you feel bad. You walk on eggshells around them. You aren’t sure if you
are their friend or therapist. Or, perhaps your ‘friendship’ is one ended- one
of you trying harder than the other. Maybe you just genuinely do not enjoy
spending time with this person. It’s time to let go of this person. Yes friend,
it’s time to break up.
It is okay to break up with a friend, right? I mean, if it
were a ‘romantic relationship’ and we drug this person along without having any
feelings for them, it would be deemed wrong, right? Well, how come if I want to
break up with a friend I’m deemed a “bitch?” It is my life after all, shouldn’t
I get to decide whom I want to spend my precious time with?
So say you want to go through with this break up. How does
one begin the process? It’s not like a boyfriend/girlfriend you can just call
up, meet for coffee, and tell them it’s over. Or, can you? Do you sit and have
‘the talk’ with the friend you are breaking up with? “Sorry, I just don’t think
we can be friends anymore.” Perhaps you aggressively ignore their calls, texts,
and chats until they get the hint? Or, maybe you just let the relationship die
out. Are you required to keep them on your social media sites? What are the
rules? You are allowed to dislike people, but why is it then deemed ‘rude’ to
not want to be friends with your friend’s friends?
I don’t believe there is a right way to do it. Someone’s
feelings are bound to get hurt, but it’s better to live an honest life, right? So
friends, I’m making the stand and telling you that you are allowed to feel
exactly how you want. If you want to break up with that friend that’s dragging
you down then by all means- break up with that friend!
Unfriend. Unfollow.
Delete.
Friendships should be in quality not quantity.